Your dreams don’t die when you get married

I go to a ministry school at my church and one of the teachers taught on marriage the other day. We broke out into small groups and in a group of young women I was the only married one. It was one of my favorite small groups! The trend I found as we went around the circle to discuss marriage was that your dreams die when you get married.

Ok that may sound odd coming from a bunch of young women who indeed want to and are looking forward to being a wife someday.  Even with those excited expectations of marriage there was still a fear in so many of them that, “my life will end when I get married” we fear having to give up our dreams, the things that are so deeply rooted in our hearts. The things God put there. We think we will always be the ones to sacrifice and that life stops there.
Yes things will change. You can no longer go and do whatever you want, whenever you want.
I am very independent and I remember telling Trevor a few months before our wedding:
“I want to move to Spain! I want to live there for 3 months and learn Spanish more fluently!” As I rambled on about my plans I remember Trevor just looking at me and saying “what about me?”
Oh, yeah… I’ll be married. I’ll have a husband. I can’t just up and leave. Things will be different, but your life will not end. Your dreams don’t culminate as a wife. There is so much more God put in you. But Actually, they will be more powerful with your husband! Things you could never do alone are now possible with him! If God put something so strong on your heart don’t you think he could put it in your husbands heart too? Being married only enriches and enhances these dreams.

My business would not be what it is without the love and unconditional support of Trevor. When we were dating I remember being discouraged coming home from shoots and him just encouraging me. It made all the difference. I needed him to help build my business, even if he was just standing behind me telling me to keep going. Now he works with me and is a support in so many other ways.

It’s not all about you either. Your husband has dreams too. He has these ideas, things he might think are silly. Sometimes the silly ideas make all the difference. Support him! Encourage him! Partner with him!

Marriage is not losing your identity and forsaking all the things you dreamed up while you were single. It’s two individuals with dreams, aspirations, ideas and vision and when both of you come together you can make anything happen!

Your dreams don’t die when you get married. They come alive in incredible ways and part of the adventure is watching it unfold. Together.

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Colorado Wedding Photographer | Jason + Margaret |

When Jason and Margaret met with us to talk details about their wedding day we could both tell how in love they were. It was no surprise they decided to elope! They had a sweet and intimate backyard ceremony and made sure to incorporate Jason’s daughters. We are so excited for them and this new adventure and can’t wait to photograph their reception later this summer!

If you are looking for more of Jason and Margaret check out their engagement session here


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Foodie Friday | Houston, Texas | Destination Wedding Photographer

Adventure is in my soul so when I get to travel to photograph weddings I make sure to extend my trip a day or two to really explore the city I am in. Trevor and I had such a fun time exploring Houston! It was a great trip that included going to an awesome art museum, photographing Caitlin and Ryan’s GORGEOUS wedding at The Parador, visiting one of Trevor’s childhood friends Chris and Celeste and meeting their brand new daughter (Celeste has a great blog btw, AND of course FOOD! We asked some of our friends who were locals to give us some suggestions on places to eat that would be different than what we could find in Colorado. We were not disappointed, actually, I still crave one of the things we got to try and sadly they don’t make them in Colorado. (At least I haven’t found them). So here is the run down of our favorite restaurants and dishes we tried!

Fine Dining Restaurant: Down House

This was our favorite restaurant we tried when we were there. It had a really great atmosphere and the service was awesome (Trevor had a slight man crush on our server).

What Trevor Got: Kimchi Burger, Cabot Cheddar, Fried Duck Egg,Bulgogi Sauce, Aioli, Challah Bun, and Fries
What He Thought:  “LOVED IT, Very tasty. The flavor of the Kimchi with the duck egg was my favorite part!”

What Rhema Got: Chicken Fried Portobello Mushrooms, Mashed Potatoes, Spinach Salad, Spicy Pepper Honey

What She Thought: “Perfect mixture of spicy and sweet! Just thinking about the Pepper Honey sauce is making my mouth water!”

Restaurant: The Kolache Factory

I had NO IDEA what Kolache’s were before this trip but THESE ARE SO AMAZING! Kolaches are super soft sweet rolls filled with fruits, cream cheese, eggs, bacon or lots of other things! I had a Raspberry filled Kolache and wish I could eat one everyday, SO GOOD! Trevor had a Cheese Steak Kolache that he devoured and went back for a 2nd 🙂 It may be a good thing I can’t find them here 😉

Dessert: Amy’s Ice Creams

When there is a line going all the way around the restaurant you know it’s a good idea to order something there. I am a dessert person, I might have one after every meal (ok, I wish!) But Ice Cream is one of my favorites! Now you will quickly find out on our blog that both Trevor and I LOVE beer. We enjoy going on beer tours with our friends, we live in Fort Collins, and LOVE our microbreweries 😉 So I think one of the greatest flavor infusions is beer and ice cream! Amy’s has a few different flavors that include alcohol but that night they had Rolling Rock and I was a happy camper! Who cares what Trevor had!! Mine was amazing!! (ok, if you care, he had his “go to”, a cookies and cream malt).

Another place we stopped by was Specs, Its a HUGE liquor store that is SO MUCH MORE than a liquor store. We may or may not have purchased an extra suitcase to bring some things back 😉

These are a few places we recommend trying out in Houston. I hope I didn’t make you too hungry 😉 Now time for a snack!

Houston Instagram shots, (I was too busy eating the amazing food so I forgot to take pictures, next time!


xoxo, Rhema

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Introducing: Foodie Friday!

Trevor and I have become self proclaimed foodies. We love cooking, finding fun new restaurants and EATING. We are both guilty of becoming quite hangry when our tummies are not full, so we try and avoid that at all costs! A phrase that frequently comes out of Trevor’s mouth when I am short with him is ” oh, you need to eat, don’t you?” in a very sincere tone.

Because of our love of food and FUN restaurants we decided to start: FOODIE FRIDAY!! (da da duh!!)

We have had the amazing opportunity to travel a lot lately and we were always on the lookout for great local food. So we wanted to share some of our favorites here in the FOCO area and in the places we have (and are going to) visit! We might include some of our favorite recipes to cook as well! Check out the blog next week for our Houston Edition of Foodie Friday!

No blog post is complete without photos so here are some instagram shots!

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Colorado Engagement Photographer | Jason + Margaret | Junk Yard/Harley Engagement Session

I have been wanting to photograph at a junk yard for quite some time now (Don’t ask me why) and when Jason and Margaret told me they wanted to take some pictures with a Harley, I had a feeling they would be game!
It was just as cool as I thought 😉

We had some crazy Colorado weather! It went from rain to shine TWICE during their almost 2 hour session. But as Colorado always does, the rain left quickly and we got to keep shooting!

I have known Margaret since I was in highschool and when she introduced Trevor and I to Jason I instantly liked him! They are such a sweet couple! I can’t wait to photograph their July wedding!


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